So much of the strain we experience, however, has little to do with shopping, budgets, travel plans, or hosting a gathering. That's simply the "surface" stuff.
What shows up as a tightness in the shoulders or a back ache (seemingly out of nowhere) is more often due to unsettling memories from past holidays, the painful absence of loved ones, broken promises, and/or unresolved strife between family members.
Insert deep breath here.
We need a deep breath here because this is the "deep" stuff. This is the stuff we might not be aware of on a daily basis. [More on this in my last blog, Am I Psycho(somatic)?].
These old memories, those unresolved arguments, this grief--all of it has a charge, does it not? And this charge pulls and tugs on us now. So... what do we do?
Here's a suggestion:
- Notice where you feel the charge in your body. Is there an area of tightness or soreness? Tension or pain? Locate it in your body.
- Come as close as you can to it with your attention. Study it. Observe it. Learn everything you can about it.
- Only if it feels accessible, guide your breath to this area (as if you were breathing directly into it). Give it breath as you give it attention.
- Gently place your hand on this area. Listen to what shows up and see what else is needed.
Caring attention and gentle touch are our natural healing tools. Throughout the holidays, keep coming back to this. It may not change how you feel overnight, but it does invite ease. And ease can help us all get through the holidays.
May loving attention and gentle touch be a healing balm for all your wounds,
-- Shira Oz-Sinai
Looking for additional ways to cultivate loving attention and receive gentle, healing touch?
#1: Starting THIS Tuesday, 6:30 - 7:30pm, 3 meditations for holiday stress relief!!
More @ shiraozsinai.com/holiday-stress-relief.
#2: There's really nothing more appropriate than eneregywork for meeting that electric charge in the body pulsating from unresolved past tensions. The style of acupressure that I use is specifically designed to care for the root causes of current challenges without re-living past horrors or losing touch with reality. While the touch is gentle, the healing impact is profound. Call me to see if acupressure is right for you or learn more / schedule your session @ shiraozsinai.com/acupressure.