I was happily scrolling through Facebook the other day, catching up with family and friends. Within a nanosecond however, I went from “I wonder what's up with Judy” to “I want what Judy has!”. Like waves rushing to shore, envy was soon followed by shame (“I’m bad for wanting that”), then guilt (“I shouldn’t want what others have”), and finally anger (“Why can’t I have what she has?”). In a matter of about 3 seconds, I was consumed by jealousy and downright miserable.
You know the feeling, right? One moment you’re going along just fine, maybe driving home through the neighborhood or watching a movie. The next thing you know, a tidal wave of envy washes over you.
All of the sudden, you want that beautiful house you just passed, that front lawn, and those deck chairs. You want that vacation you just saw on TV, that loving relationship, and that successful career. Darn it, you want those jeans, too! (And maybe those arms, those legs, that face, etc.’).
Green with envy, anyone?
Though most of us have been taught that jealousy is bad and that we ought to be ashamed of ourselves for experiencing it, I've realized over the years that the feeling of jealousy itself is quite harmless. When used appropriately, jealousy can re-invigorate us and support our wildest dreams into reality. (Wanna know how? Click to continue reading).
Shira Oz-Sinai is a spiritual teacher trained in iRest® Yoga Nidra meditation and Soul Lightening Acupressure®, two modalities that share the common principle of noticing what arises in awareness as the foundation to living life with ease and in deep and loving friendship with yourself. These are her musings.