Ahhh, December... The time of year when we get to enjoy deeply nourishing sleep, longer hours of cuddling in bed (with a teddy bear or loved one), little work, lots of inward reflection, and even some play, RIGHT?!
Well, not exactly.
While we are fast approaching the shortest day/longest night of the year (December 21), most of us still need to get up and go to work everyday, take care of the usual business, and on top of that also get ready for the holidays. What a challenge!
So how do we tend to ourselves when our schedules are full and our bodies yearn to do absolutely nothing? I suggest that we start with listening. Take a moment--perhaps right now--to check in with yourself. Inhale. Exhale. And ask yourself: What is needed now? Then, consider how you can respond within the constraints of your schedule. Do this throughout your day or week.
The idea is to hear what is needed now and respond right away--whether completely fulfilling the need or coming up with a compromise. Think of these needs like little children who have yet to learn the concept of "later," so you show them now that you are listening. This way we begin to feel heard by our own selves, which intrinsically invites ease.
For example: If a nap is needed and there's no time for it, would the need be appeased with taking it easy at work today? Or resting when you get back home? Maybe upon hearing the need you discover that you actually do have time for a quick nap? Try it and see what happens! And then let me know how it went (unless the need says it's time to take a break from email or phone. Then wait a while and contact me later!).
May you always find rest in your presence,
-- Shira Oz-Sinai
How is asking "what is needed" supporting you?
Shira Oz-Sinai is a spiritual teacher trained in iRest® Yoga Nidra meditation and Soul Lightening Acupressure®, two modalities that share the common principle of noticing what arises in awareness as the foundation to living life with ease and in deep and loving friendship with yourself. These are her musings.