You know the feeling, right? One moment you’re going along just fine, maybe driving home through the neighborhood or watching a movie. The next thing you know, a tidal wave of envy washes over you.
All of the sudden, you want that beautiful house you just passed, that front lawn, and those deck chairs. You want that vacation you just saw on TV, that loving relationship, and that successful career. Darn it, you want those jeans, too! (And maybe those arms, those legs, that face, etc.’).
Green with envy, anyone?
Though most of us have been taught that jealousy is bad and that we ought to be ashamed of ourselves for experiencing it, I've realized over the years that the feeling of jealousy itself is quite harmless. When used appropriately, jealousy can re-invigorate us and support our wildest dreams into reality. (Wanna know how? Click to continue reading).
This vibrant-green of a new sprout bursting with life and the less-adored shade of green-with-envy are really two green sides of the same… well, leaf.
Jealousy too pulsates (or throbs) with our pure and innocent desire to live. No, to thrive! This is life pushing forth with great vitality. When I want what Judy has, like a big house or beach vacation, I am not just coveting for coveting's sake. Underneath it all, I am deeply longing for what I perceive as Judy's thriving. Why? Because I want to thrive, too!
There's actually nothing evil, malicious, bad, or wrong with the feeling of jealousy itself. Perhaps everything we have been warned about when it comes to envy is due to the choices and decisions people make in reaction to it.
Now, let's get practical!
As you feel yourself getting pulled by "the grass is greener on the other side," let it point you directly to your own back yard. Does it need watering? A trim? Some mulch? How about new flowers or new flower-pots? This is your opportunity to harness the raw energy of jealousy and make it work for you!
The next time jealousy arises within you, follow these steps:
- Feel how jealousy pulsates with your desire to thrive.
- Tell yourself that there's nothing wrong with feeling.
- Re-direct that energy toward your own vision and plans.
- Ask yourself: What project needs my attention? What idea needs a boost? What action is required now?
- Ready? Set? Go! Go ahead, unlock the pure power of jealousy and materialize the life of your dreams.
Not exactly sure how to do this? Want more support? Contact me, schedule a session, or come by for a class. You are not alone.
May the pure energy of envy bring forth the most magnificent of blossomings for you,
-- Shira Oz-Sinai
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