For many of us, the end of December brings about a reflection on the past year and thoughts of a New Year’s resolution. Whether it’s our tradition to make one or not, cultural prompts for a new self-improvement vow seep in through TV shows, ad campaigns, and social media.
Literally in our face are messages about how we ought to exercise more, lose weight, eat healthier, spend more time with family and friends, spend less time on Facebook, and enjoy life to the fullest. Although on the surface nothing is wrong with these messages, there’s another message that subtly sneaks in: there is something wrong with you.
See, our minds love logic and linear thinking. And logically, if something needs improvement or fixing, this means it’s not ok how it is now. If you want to improve your house, this means it’s not ok now. If you want to improve your car, this means it’s not ok now. If you want to improve your health, body, attitude, outlook, job, relationship, etc., this means—in the linear way our minds work—that there is something wrong with you, that there is a problem, that who you are is not ok now.
But is the ocean wrong for being? Is the sun wrong for being? Are you wrong for being? While resolutions may help you become aware of certain aspects of your life, who you are does NOT need any fixing. Who you are is NOT wrong. Who you are is NOT a walking, talking self-improvement project!
Instead, take a good look at yourself with the eyes of compassion and love and see yourself as the precious being that you are—already complete, perfect, and whole.
May every moment of every day point you back to the precious being that you are,
Not sure what I mean? Want some support with feeling your own wholeness? Join me in an upcoming meditation or private session or leave a comment below.
What do you notice as you reflect on resolutions?
Shira Oz-Sinai is a spiritual teacher trained in iRest® Yoga Nidra meditation and Soul Lightening Acupressure®, two modalities that share the common principle of noticing what arises in awareness as the foundation to living life with ease and in deep and loving friendship with yourself. These are her musings.