We use the word curiosity to mean “an eager desire to know or learn about something” (Cambridge English Dictionary). But curiosity is so much more than just a desire to know, isn’t it?
When we become curious, a certain process is initiated. We open ourselves up to observing, noticing, exploring. We open ourselves up to this moment. We examine it. We study it. We watch it, all from a very open, very receptive, very free place. We become like children again when we are curious, unencumbered by the limitations of the mind, by what we think we know, what we had expected, or what we were taught. Instead, we’re just open. Open to experience. Open to life. Open and free.
Imagine meeting a change in weather with curiosity. It’s breezy and cool instead of the warmth and sunshine you expected? Ok, now let’s be curious! This breeze, what does it feel like? What is the air like on your face? What does it smell like? Does it tickle your nose with pollen? Does it spread goose bumps across your skin? What else is happening in this moment, what is it truly like?
The mind will undoubtedly stay very focused on how you thought it was going to be warmer and how you thought you wouldn’t need a jacket and how you thought you’d to be able to play in the park later. But when you’re curious, really truly curious, you simply notice the mind’s confusion as well as its feeble attempts to know it all, and the rest of you is free to fully experience this moment, like the unexpected touch of coolness on your arm or the sudden orgasmic release of a full-body sneeze.
In total curiosity, a change in weather, a frightening medical diagnosis, or a surprise party are all met with equal attention and great care. In fact, the word “curious” stems from the Latin “cura,” or care. So instead of getting swept away by a thought avalanche of “Why is this happening? Why me? What does it mean for the rest of my life?” with curiosity you’re actually free to live this moment. You’re free to tend to yourself with great care. You’re actually free, open, and available to life.
Be curious then. Be curious with your whole self, including but not limited to your mind. Be curious with your heart. Be curious with your eyes. Be curious with your ears, skin, gut. Be curious with your whole body. Be curious with your whole being. Be totally curious, open, and free.
May you always find your way back to curiosity and feel the freedom that you are,
-- Shira Oz-Sinai
P.S. Not sure what I mean? Need support with a particularly challenging experience and/or living life from a place of total curiosity? Contact me for a free consultation, schedule a private session, or leave a comment below.